The Gottman’s four stage theory f conflict explains the factors which are responsible for marital conflicts and instability between a couple and even divorce. These factors are four in number are collectively called the four horsemen of the Apocalypse. They include criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. Criticism is disapproval expressed by pointing out faults or shortcomings. Contempt is lack of respect accompanied by a feeling of intense dislike and it’s the most destructive. Defensiveness is excessive sensitivity to criticism.
Stonewalling refusal to answer questions or cooperate, that is, keeping to oneself. When is the relationship unable to be helped by therapy? The relationship cannot be helped by the therapy when the couple is face with the problems tagged perpetual problems, that is, problems that have to do with personality and lifestyle of the couple. What therapy techniques do psychologists use when trying to enhance communication? The therapy used by psychologists when trying to enhance communication is the Sound Relationship House Theory. Reference: Michael, B. & Marcia, G,(2005). Got Gottman?